6 Things You Didn’t Know About The Suffragettes

6 Things You Didn’t Know About The Suffragettes

Mar 17

Everyone knows that the Woman Suffrage Movement was made in order to give the women the equal right to vote and to hold public office, just as men were able to.

Every person, man and woman alike, should have a say in what the future of their country should be.

The fight was won and now women can vote, but along with this there were many other things that the suffragettes were also able to accomplish for womankind.

But there are some things about suffragettes you might not know. Here’s some of them.

Why I Think Feminism is So Misunderstood by Today’s Youth

Why I Think Feminism is So Misunderstood by Today’s Youth

Jan 10

When the word feminism is mentioned, what usually comes to mind is now a twisted, warped version of what the term really means.

Where feminism is supposed to mean ‘the advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of the equality of the sexes,’ these days some women take it to mean that women should be of higher rank than men, and thus should be held in higher regard.

Unfortunately, it is this warped version which has grown in popularity (with the help of popular culture) and has led to a common misunderstanding of Feminism.

Why Misandry Only Hurts the Cause

Why Misandry Only Hurts the Cause

Aug 22

Feminism is grossly misunderstood and is often mistaken for misandry.

I am sure that I have discussed this before, but feminism and misandry is completely different from each other.

Basically, feminists are all about gaining equality in the work place, fighting violence and abuse against women, and having control of oneself and of one’s own body.

Misandry on the other hand, is all about hating men and subjugating them in the same way that men subjugate women. It is the inverse of misogyny, which is the hatred of women.

True feminists believe in equality for all people, regardless of gender.

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In fact, you will see many feminists who like men and enjoy the company of men, and there are many men who call themselves feminists as well.

While there are self-proclaimed feminists who are really just misandrists in disguise, the truth is that I have noticed a disturbing trend of misandrist jokes being linked to feminists.

There are many feminists who use tongue-in-cheek misandrist comments in an effort to look “ironic”.

For example, I had a friend who needed an emergency locksmith in Luton, and called up the local locksmith.

The man who arrived was short, and a bit heavy set, and she immediately made a comment about how “men should be in grunt work, am I right?”

AA019338She laughed and expected me to do the same, but I immediately accosted her. I apologized to the locksmith and paid him for his time.

I then turned to my friend and asked her why she would say something like that.

She told me that it was all a joke and that there is nothing wrong with a bit of “ironic misandry”.

In fact, this same friend has one of those “I drink men’s tears” mugs lying around in her house.

While I can appreciate some humour here and there, jokes about misandry do not help the cause even in the slightest.

It is the equivalent of misogynist jokes such as “Make me a sandwich”.

If that locksmith had told me that I was “too delicate” for such a job, I would have likewise been offended.

In the proper context, ironic misandrist jokes are fine, especially if they are used as rebuttal to a misogynist joke.

However, most of the time, it is just damaging to the cause especially since the majority of people will be put off by the tongue-in-cheek commentary.

As feminists, we have to promote proper discourse and understanding, communicating with others in a rational, intelligent way.

There are other ways to be humorous, but often times, snarky misandry is not the way to go. After all, sexism disguised as humour is still sexism.

Misandry and misogyny are both damaging to feminists and help no one, even if its “just a joke”.

What Women Can Do Now That They Couldn’t Do Before

What Women Can Do Now That They Couldn’t Do Before

Aug 17

With all thanks to the suffragettes, we women now have more rights. We can do a lot of things now that we could not back then.

Although things are still not exactly what I would call ‘ideal’, for me it appears that we are getting there—if by one little baby step at a time. It takes a while for society to change after all.

There are many things that women can do now that we could not even begin to imagine doing back then, such as getting a job in higher education amongst other things, but here are some more things we can do now that we couldn’t before.

Starting with, of course, the right to…

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As we all know, thanks to the suffragettes who pushed for the passing of the 19th amendment in 1920, women now have the right to vote.

It was a long battle for them to achieve this, and it was a battle that started the ball rolling.

The rest of these effects I’ve listed following (and many effects I’ve not been able to list) are residual, but the suffragettes have truly made it all possible.

Attending Ivy League Schools

Way back when, only two Ivy League schools admitted women before the year 1913—UPenn and Cornell.

After 1913 other Ivy League schools have begun to admit women—Harvard, Princeton, Yale, Brown, Dartmouth and Columbia alike.

Additionally, married women could also finally apply to graduate school as well, something that was not possible back then.

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It may seem like such a trivial thing now, in today’s world, but back then, women could not even own credit cards in their own names. At least they could not before the year 1974.

But after the passing of the Equal Credit Opportunity Act, women could finally get credit cards in their own name as the act ensured that banks and financial institutions could no longer discriminate based on sex.

Men and women both could be able to get credit cards at last.

Birth Control

This is something that is close to my heart because I believe that women should have the right to control what happens to their bodies.

I know there is a huge argument over it, and I do listen to both sides, but this is still my belief and I hope that people can respect it without causing argument.

Now, that said, the pill became more widely available for women in the year 1960, after the FDA approved it. In addition, emergency contraception became available in 1998, after the FDA approved it.

This is another important thing for me because it makes it possible for women who were victims of sexual assault and rape to take emergency contraception in order to prevent pregnancy by their attackers.

It lessens the likelihood of them carrying their attacker’s child to term, a horrific thing to live with and deal with no doubt.

Why You Shouldn’t Be Ashamed of Your Periods

Why You Shouldn’t Be Ashamed of Your Periods

Jul 29

 

I once had a period stain while I looked at some venues in Leeds for a party. My friend, who was there to accompany me, audibly gasped, “You have a stain!!” while pointing at a little red dot on my pants.

 

I looked and indeed, I had a stain on my pants, but I told her it was not a big deal, and I was simply having one of my heavy flow days. I said that I will finish what I am doing first before I decide to change my clothes.

Meanwhile, here is an An informative video of the biological processes behind the menstrual cycle:

 

 
But she kept insisting that I change it now, because it is “so embarrassing” and “what if someone sees you?”. I laughed it off and told her that while it is a bit embarrassing to see a stain on my clothes because of my period, it really isn’t that big of a deal, as I get them all the time when I am having one of my heavier days.

 

She then said “But aren’t you afraid of people finding out about your periods?”. At this point, I looked at her with a bit of surprise. Well, to be honest, periods should not be a horrible, shameful thing that has to kept secret from everyone.

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Almost all women have had a period in their lives and will likely live with it for the rest of their reproductive lives.

 

Unless you are sick, transgendered, or had a hysterectomy, your periods are common and perfectly normal. Why would I be afraid of someone else finding out that I have a period?

 

But then I remembered how my mother told me that periods are horrible, immodest things, and that I should keep them secret from everyone. She would not even let me throw away my sanitary napkin in the trash bag, as I needed to carefully wrap it in multiple layers of paper until it is no longer identifiable as a pad. Not only was this a waste of paper, but I was confused over the hushed attitudes people seem to have about it.

 

Even in these modern days, the word “menstruation” is still considered unclean and uncalled for when brought up in conversation, even if things such as sexuality and sex acts come up in conversation all the time.

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I even heard someone joke that saying the word “menstruation” in public procures the same reactions from onlookers as saying “Voldemort” in Hogwarts.

 

Harry Potter taboo words aside, I have always wondered why periods are such taboos. They are a natural part of female sexuality, a very normal and common biological response that dates back thousands if not millions of years.

 

Why is it that a woman is culturally trained to be ashamed of her period, having to go through many lengths to pretend that she does not get them?

 

As a feminist, I believe that your menstrual cycle is nothing to be ashamed about. It is simply part of who you are and a symbol of your fertility. I think women should embrace her periods, not vilify them, even though they do give you some nasty cramps!

Ways to Promote Your Cause

Ways to Promote Your Cause

Jul 10
As advocates of a cause or even as people who firmly believe in something, you may eventually want to spread your message out to people. There are many ways to do this—a million ways to do it even—and it really all starts with word of mouth.

 

These days we even have the internet so that you can send out email blasts or become more active in social media. Perhaps you can even have your own website. But of course, there are still the more old school or traditional ways to promote your very worthwhile cause—here are just some of them.

 

Booths at Related Events
You can put up a pop up booth at an event that is somehow related to your cause. It can be something related to charity or something that isn’t at all, but regardless of what it is you may want to have an exhibition stand that easily pops up to make it easier for you when you set up then pack up after the event.
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You will also want to have a booth that makes you look more credible and professional, but at the same time you want that very booth to attract as much attention as possible at the same time.

 

Leaflets
Leaflet marketing has been around for the longest time, maybe even forever. Okay, not really forever, but as far as you or me or anyone can remember, people have been marketing via leaflets.

 

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It works great because they’re cost effective to make, they’re easy to hand out and easy to leave at places which will allow you to put them up. Just know when and where to hand them out, of course, so that you don’t end up with people who throw them away without looking at all. It happens.

 

Take Advantage of Community Boards
There are community bulletin or announcement boards available in some stores, or perhaps in churches or town halls. You can of course take advantage of them, posting your messages and posters if you need to.

 

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If there is no more space look for a leaflet or posting that is no longer relevant (go by the date—if it’s for an event that has already passed take it down and put your leaflet back up), but don’t just go pulling off other peoples’ advertisements without checking if they are outdated or not.

 

Got a Marketing Budget?
If you are an organisation or company that has a budget dedicated in its entirety to marketing, you can use that money to do a radio advertisement or a TV advertisement. These days you even have the option of making advertisements that will show on YouTube or various other websites.

 

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There are a million ways to advertise if you actually have money to do so. Just of course always be wise where you advertise and how. You don’t want to ruin your or your organisation’s reputation by making a few bad decisions about your marketing.

 

Watch and enjoy this inspiring story behind charity – An interview with the founder and CEO of Scott Harrison Foundation:

 

Feminism and Motherhood

Feminism and Motherhood

Jun 08

Some people seem to believe that if you are a feminist, motherhood is incompatible with your world-view and should therefore be shunned. However, I do not believe this myself. While I disagree that a woman’s only purpose would be to bear children into this world, I believe that feminism and motherhood are not mutually exclusive of each other.

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I have a partner and two children myself, yet I consider myself a feminist. Yes, I am a working woman with my own jobs and a blog to boot, but I do not think that my choice of having children is considered “anti-feminist” or somehow makes me less of a woman.

 

Motherhood is intrinsically feminine, and while people of all genders are capable of parenthood, biologically speaking, motherhood is something only a woman (or someone who is formerly a woman) can experience.

 

I do not believe that motherly duties are somehow less noble than working your job or making a change in the world. For me, feminism is having a choice, being allowed to choose their own path rather than being controlled by a social construct.

Meanwhile here is a one hour lecture video namely  ”The Truth About Motherhood and Feminism”:

 

I take my motherly duties very seriously, and make sure that my feminist ideals still carry over to motherhood. For example, I have noticed that children’s toys are extremely gendered nowadays: boy’s toys are always blue, while girl’s toys are always pink.

Science toys, engineering toys, car toys, and doctor toys are often always limited to boys, while girls get baby dolls, tea sets, toy kitchens, and toy jewellery. Personally, I feel that this is not only damaging to a girl’s self esteem, but I think that it does not give them a well rounded education while growing up.

 

I believe that my children, especially my girls, should have equal opportunities in the future. If they want to become scientists, then they should be able to do so, without being told that it is “for men” only. That is why I think that you should get your children on a science day camp during the school holidays, and allow them to explore what they like.

 

Even sports are considered masculine, which I find quite strange. I know that my young ones are already interested in football, so I allow them to play as much as they like. After all, I am glad that they prefer to do sports and be healthy, rather than staying indoors waiting for their Prince Charming to come.

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Of course, I still buy my children dolls and cooking sets and other toys that are considered “feminine”. If I had a son, I would still buy him dolls if he wanted, because I think parenthood should be a two way street as well.

 

Motherhood is important, and family of course comes first. Women have the right to choose their lives and whether they should have children or not. Either option is fine, and no one should be judged for it.

Some Women Still Promote Sexism Towards Other Women

Some Women Still Promote Sexism Towards Other Women

Jun 04

Did you know that cultural sexism is still so widespread that even other women have sexist attitudes towards other women? Some of you may be surprised to see that since women are often on the receiving end of sexism, they should be more sensitive when dealing with other women. However, this is not the case – sexism is proliferated by both men and women alike, yet most often than not, women are on the receiving end of this.

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Now, while there are women who discriminate against men, the truth is that sexism happens and is proliferated by everyone, but the brunt of the hate is still directed towards women, who have been systemically oppressed for years by a patriarchal society.

 

I have had my own experiences with sexism from other women. It was during a time when I was looking for therapy after an accident at one of my football games. I live in Leeds and needed some treatment for a sports injury, so I went ahead and found a physiotherapist to help me.

 

The woman who was in the waiting room with me tried to chat me up asking what I needed from the therapist that day. I smiled and spoke about how I broke my leg during an injury and that it needed a bit more time to heal than usual, so I needed a physiotherapist to help me out.

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She then looked at me funny, saying “You are not a lesbian are you?” and I said that no, I wasn’t. She then said “You should not sports, I think that women’s bodies are much to delicate, so no wonder you got injured. Besides, only lesbians and other freaks were into sports”.

 

I was absolutely taken aback at the callousness of her response. According to her, being a lesbian means that you are lesser person, and that women should not be in sports because we are “delicate”. First of all, being a lesbian does not undermine your femininity, and people should have the choice to love who they want regardless of gender, as long as it is consensual.

Meanwhile here is a video about Gender Inclusive Language – How to Avoid Sexism:


Also, I do not believe that certain activities should be labelled as “for men only” or “for women only”. I know a lot of sports tend to be dominated by men, but many women have just as much drive to be athletes as men, especially if the sport does not require any specific genitals.

 

For example, football requires that you have two legs and a body. I am sure that most people of the population have legs and a body regardless of their private bits.

 

If you notice that you are proliferating gender discrimination, try to correct yourself and maybe, in the future, men and women will have the equality that we feminists yearn for. Remember that everyone can be a sexist, whether they are a woman or not.

Let’s Talk About Other Rights Too: What Do You Do in the Face of Medical Negligence?

Let’s Talk About Other Rights Too: What Do You Do in the Face of Medical Negligence?

May 27
negligence-imageI know this blog is about the rights of women, but once in a while I like to talk about other things too. But it’s not too far off, since this time I’m still talking about rights—just of a different sort.

 

I’m talking about the right to compensation after medical negligence. If you are reading this because you are a victim of medical negligence… or, okay, victim is a bit of a strong word.

 

If you are reading this because you are currently experiencing or have experienced medical negligence, then read right on. You deserve to know what rights you have when it comes to this.

 

Before we delve deeper into talk about rights, let’s discuss what medical negligence is first. Put simply, this is basically a problem that happens when a medical practitioner does not succeed to give care to the accepted standard of practice throughout the medical community. It can happen either by act or omission.

 

Okay, I made that sound a bit more complicated than it has to be, so here’s a quick FYI on medical negligence.

 

What Does Medical Negligence Involve

 

Aside from the failure to give a patient the care they need (failing to keep them comfortable, failing to make sure they receive or take medication on time, etc), there are other things that are involved when it comes to medical negligence.


The first and perhaps one of the most common things is a delayed diagnosis, or a wrong diagnosis altogether.

 

On the other hand here are the basics of Medical malpractice law…



 

In life or death cases a mistake like this could cost a person his life. And even if it wasn’t life or death, a misdiagnosis or delayed diagnosis could cause injury or further harm to a person’s health.


Errors in medical prescription (often arising from misdiagnoses) is another thing under the negligence umbrella. And of course there are the treatment or surgery errors, such as surgical tools left inside the body, or accidental snips or slices.

 

Now that we’ve discussed that, let’s move on to…

 

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When it comes to medical negligence, at times the case can be difficult to prove. But if you feel that you have been wronged by the medical practitioner or the hospital, then it is your every right to file suit and get the compensation you deserve.

 

Usually this is financial compensation as they cannot really provide any other sort of compensation, and while it is not enough, it helps.

 

So what do you do if you want the best chance to get that compensation? Well, you hire a solicitor of course. I had a friend who’s brother was misdiagnosed, leading to his eventual further injury.

 

Now he has difficulty with daily tasks. To get compensation for this, which would help with their costs for her brother’s care, she used a specialist medical negligence solicitors who knew what they were doing in order to win the case for her.

 

 

How to Deal with Damage Done by Domestic Violence

How to Deal with Damage Done by Domestic Violence

May 20
Abuse is not something to be taken lightly, regardless of whether it is of the physical or the mental kind. But physical abuse should be something that is addressed sooner rather than later, considering the fact that abuse could lead to a person’s great injury or worse—death.

 

But when the situation has been dealt with, what people neglect to realise is the fact that the woman is the one left with the damage—be that physical scars, broken bones, disfigured faces and bodies, or mental and psychological damage.

 

Repairing the damage is never easy, especially when the abuse was prolonged and particularly violent or difficult, but with the abuser out of the picture things begin to get easier. Abused women can begin to heal, whether physically or mentally, or both.

 

But when it comes to physical healing, you can only go so far before that scar remains on your body forever. You can only go so far if your bone was broken and set incorrectly. Needless to say, repairing the damage isn’t easy either—which is why I think it is a woman’s right to be able to alter or repair her appearance to its former (or to an improved) status.

 

Plastic Surgery for Reconstruction
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If the abuse to the woman has left her with many facial fractures and injuries that have left her face disfigured, I really think it’s that woman’s right to go for procedures to bring her old appearance back. It’s all part of the healing process.

 

I once met a woman who was too afraid to speak with a doctor about her situation. In fact I overheard her saying “I hate how I look now, so I want a plastic surgeon in Scottsdale to help me out, but I’m too nervous to go”, and it made me want to reach out to her and help her with it. I connected her with some doctors I know would be glad to look into her situation.

 

It’s not just faces that doctors can reconstruct, however. I’ve heard of really morbid cases where women were damaged in their sexual organs due to violent rapes. Doctors can also help restore a woman to health in this case.

 

Procedures for Scar Removal
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Women who are abused often hate the scars they are left with as they are ugly reminders of their abusive husbands, fiancés, boyfriends, lovers or what have you. Personally if I had scars due to such an ugly reason I would want them gone too.

 

Luckily there are procedures these days that can help with reducing the appearance of scars gradually until they completely disappear. If the scars are particularly nasty it may be possible to get surgical intervention in order to remove it.

 

To me, regardless of why a woman wants a scar removed I think it is her every right to do it. It’s just a matter of finding the right doctor to help her out. If you were in an abuse victim’s shoes, would you not want the same?

 

 Here’s a video about a local surgeon fixes domestic scars for free: