Everyone knows that the Woman Suffrage Movement was made in order to give the women the equal right to vote and to hold public office, just as men were able to.
Every person, man and woman alike, should have a say in what the future of their country should be.
The fight was won and now women can vote, but along with this there were many other things that the suffragettes were also able to accomplish for womankind.
But there are some things about suffragettes you might not know. Here’s some of them.
When the word feminism is mentioned, what usually comes to mind is now a twisted, warped version of what the term really means.
Where feminism is supposed to mean ‘the advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of the equality of the sexes,’ these days some women take it to mean that women should be of higher rank than men, and thus should be held in higher regard.
Unfortunately, it is this warped version which has grown in popularity (with the help of popular culture) and has led to a common misunderstanding of Feminism.
Some people seem to believe that if you are a feminist, motherhood is incompatible with your world-view and should therefore be shunned. However, I do not believe this myself. While I disagree that a woman’s only purpose would be to bear children into this world, I believe that feminism and motherhood are not mutually exclusive of each other.
I have a partner and two children myself, yet I consider myself a feminist. Yes, I am a working woman with my own jobs and a blog to boot, but I do not think that my choice of having children is considered “anti-feminist” or somehow makes me less of a woman.
Motherhood is intrinsically feminine, and while people of all genders are capable of parenthood, biologically speaking, motherhood is something only a woman (or someone who is formerly a woman) can experience.
I do not believe that motherly duties are somehow less noble than working your job or making a change in the world. For me, feminism is having a choice, being allowed to choose their own path rather than being controlled by a social construct.
Meanwhile here is a one hour lecture video namely ”The Truth About Motherhood and Feminism”:
I take my motherly duties very seriously, and make sure that my feminist ideals still carry over to motherhood. For example, I have noticed that children’s toys are extremely gendered nowadays: boy’s toys are always blue, while girl’s toys are always pink.
Science toys, engineering toys, car toys, and doctor toys are often always limited to boys, while girls get baby dolls, tea sets, toy kitchens, and toy jewellery. Personally, I feel that this is not only damaging to a girl’s self esteem, but I think that it does not give them a well rounded education while growing up.
I believe that my children, especially my girls, should have equal opportunities in the future. If they want to become scientists, then they should be able to do so, without being told that it is “for men” only. That is why I think that you should get your children on a science day camp during the school holidays, and allow them to explore what they like.
Even sports are considered masculine, which I find quite strange. I know that my young ones are already interested in football, so I allow them to play as much as they like. After all, I am glad that they prefer to do sports and be healthy, rather than staying indoors waiting for their Prince Charming to come.
Of course, I still buy my children dolls and cooking sets and other toys that are considered “feminine”. If I had a son, I would still buy him dolls if he wanted, because I think parenthood should be a two way street as well.
Motherhood is important, and family of course comes first. Women have the right to choose their lives and whether they should have children or not. Either option is fine, and no one should be judged for it.
Did you know that cultural sexism is still so widespread that even other women have sexist attitudes towards other women? Some of you may be surprised to see that since women are often on the receiving end of sexism, they should be more sensitive when dealing with other women. However, this is not the case – sexism is proliferated by both men and women alike, yet most often than not, women are on the receiving end of this.
Now, while there are women who discriminate against men, the truth is that sexism happens and is proliferated by everyone, but the brunt of the hate is still directed towards women, who have been systemically oppressed for years by a patriarchal society.
I have had my own experiences with sexism from other women. It was during a time when I was looking for therapy after an accident at one of my football games. I live in Leeds and needed some treatment for a sports injury, so I went ahead and found a physiotherapist to help me.
The woman who was in the waiting room with me tried to chat me up asking what I needed from the therapist that day. I smiled and spoke about how I broke my leg during an injury and that it needed a bit more time to heal than usual, so I needed a physiotherapist to help me out.
She then looked at me funny, saying “You are not a lesbian are you?” and I said that no, I wasn’t. She then said “You should not sports, I think that women’s bodies are much to delicate, so no wonder you got injured. Besides, only lesbians and other freaks were into sports”.
I was absolutely taken aback at the callousness of her response. According to her, being a lesbian means that you are lesser person, and that women should not be in sports because we are “delicate”. First of all, being a lesbian does not undermine your femininity, and people should have the choice to love who they want regardless of gender, as long as it is consensual.
Meanwhile here is a video about Gender Inclusive Language – How to Avoid Sexism:
Also, I do not believe that certain activities should be labelled as “for men only” or “for women only”. I know a lot of sports tend to be dominated by men, but many women have just as much drive to be athletes as men, especially if the sport does not require any specific genitals.
For example, football requires that you have two legs and a body. I am sure that most people of the population have legs and a body regardless of their private bits.
If you notice that you are proliferating gender discrimination, try to correct yourself and maybe, in the future, men and women will have the equality that we feminists yearn for. Remember that everyone can be a sexist, whether they are a woman or not.
The first and perhaps one of the most common things is a delayed diagnosis, or a wrong diagnosis altogether.
Errors in medical prescription (often arising from misdiagnoses) is another thing under the negligence umbrella. And of course there are the treatment or surgery errors, such as surgical tools left inside the body, or accidental snips or slices.
Here’s a video about a local surgeon fixes domestic scars for free:
As we continue to break down the sexism barriers within the workplace (and there’s no doubt we’ve made clear progress there), I wonder whether there are still some jobs that men are just better suited to.
Some examples come to mind, like drain cleaners.
Correct me if I’m wrong ladies, but are we happy for men to continue cleaning out our drains for us? My knee-jerk reaction is to say abso-friggin-loutely.
However, if us girls are really to be give fair treatment in all aspects of life – then we can’t just pick and choose the nice parts about being female in the workplace.
Another job that comes to mind is a personal injury solicitor I found at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2FCm1SbBqb8 is this a more suited profession for a dude?
There’s something about getting up in court and helping someone get money from someone they might not actually deserver to that just seems more of a male thing to do. Could us girls live with ourselves or put our heart into a case that we didn’t think was right?
I’m actually leaning more to yes on that one, we have to move away from being labeled as these timid little creatures – and well, “man up”.
Everyone is familiar with the “friendzoned” meme, a favourite word used by hundreds of jaded “nice guys” who think that all women like dating jerks when there is a perfectly eligible bachelor right in front of them.
The story is a commonly heard one: a boy is interested in a girl, who is absolutely clueless about her friend’s romantic intentions.
Said boy acts as the perfect White Knight, coming to her aid when she is in trouble, making her smile when she is sad.
Heck, some even go as far as acting like her personal secretary, making her coffee and reserving business meeting venues in Leeds when she meets up with her clients.
But eventually, he confesses his feelings, which are immediately met with rejection. “We’re just friends” she says, and he goes off dejected, crying “Friendzoned!” to his buddies and the internet.
He then goes off bashing women, saying that they are “users” and “only date jerks”.
Now, I cannot speak for every individual case here, but if a girl is not interested in you, it is probably not her fault. Bashing her for not being interested in you is just a form of chauvinism because…
You Cannot Force Someone to Love You
Love moves in mysterious ways, and no one can predict what kind of man (or woman) a girl may find attractive. You may have some qualities that she may find attractive, but that does not mean that she finds you attractive as a whole.
It could be something completely superficial like your hair or your clothes, or it could be something more — you could be considered too immature or your personalities simply do not match. You cannot force a girl to be attracted to you, because she has her own idea of what she finds attractive.
She Doesn’t Owe You Anything
Just because you are nice to her, does not mean that you get an automatic ticket to boyfriend-ville. Being a White Knight can only get you so far, and if she sees you as a friend, you probably didn’t make your intentions clear enough.
In fact, chances are that all of the nice things that you do for her are simply things that good friends do for each other. She does not owe you anything, and if you do nice things because of ulterior motives, you may not be as sincere as you think you are.
Society has a weird way of telling every guy that if they are nice, they will eventually “get the girl”. In fact, Hollywood tells us that no matter how immature or unwarranted your acts are, you will always get the girl, and a HOT girl at that.
Just think of every underdog on screen ending up with the hot popular girl, even if they have nothing in common. It is so common on the silver screen!
Society teaches us that for every male, there is an incredibly rare and beautiful girl for him. Well, that’s just not how the world works — Women are not just some prize to be won.
If you scream “friendzoned” after every rejection, you probably aren’t a true friend to begin with.
We have all heard it said to us at one point in our lives: “Women should be in the kitchen where they belong!” and “Make me a sandwich”.
Which I think is extremely demeaning and relegates women back to the “Perfect 50s Housewife” stereotype.
In other words, the only career a woman could ever hope for is that of a meek housewife whose primary goal in life is to make her husband happy and to take care of their children.
This new level of misogyny is becoming quickly being considered perfectly normal behaviour due to various internet memes and websites.
Day in the Life of a Kitchen – early 1960′s – The Stay Home Mum
However, women have gone a long way since the 50s, and the rise of suffragettes and working class women in positions of power signalled the dawn of a new era.
Though sexism is still alive today, there is no denying that the modern woman is considered a huge asset to the economy, taking up more jobs than ever before.
And it is no wonder that the new ideal is that of a hard-working, skilled career woman. In fact, nowadays, the idea of the meek housewife is actually frowned upon, and many people, especially other women, think that you are not reaching your full potential.
Even if you are a mother, you are expected to get out of the house and work a nine to five job.
But I think that this goes against the ideals of feminism. You simply do not replace one stereotype with another — women should be allowed to do whatever they want without being forced into a specific box. It does not matter whether your like working in the kitchen or a kitchen remodeler who builds the kitchen with her bare hands.
Being one thing or another does not make you any less of a woman than the next.
I have nothing against women who choose to be housewives in order to take care of their family. If she can afford to do so and if it makes her happy, I think it is a very noble choice of profession. Likewise, I think it is also noble that a woman would choose to go to the office and work a full time job.
However, in the true spirit of gender equality, I also have no qualms about a father who chooses to stay at home to care for their kids if the mother decides to work.
You can be a feminist whether you are a man or a woman, whether you enjoy housework or not. Just because you like to wear lipstick and a dress, does not mean that you are any less of a woman than the ones who wear pressed power suits and tight hair buns.
Instead forcing women to take on a specific gender role, a true feminist focuses on giving a woman a choice — true gender equality is being allowed to make your own choices regardless of your gender.